A woman is not a platter of food. I know we use that expression: what a dish! Biology, training, natural impulse and experiences can make it seem that measurements and hair style are foundational. But...
Wrinkled? Flabby? Tall? Flat? So what? That's not the point.
Can you see? Can you talk? Can you write? Can you take pictures of beauty, quote good stuff, ask intelligent questions? Can you comfort? Can you applaud, celebrate, honor, appreciate?
Don't forget it is your voice! Your emotional sensitivity and your ability to express emotion are what bring joy. Your responsiveness to others, your vulnerability and openness electrify, not your bust or waist measurements.
Pick your favorite manly man and have him talk to a little kid he likes. Listen carefully. I find that he does not, indeed cannot, hit that upper C and move his face with the same speed and invitation that comes naturally to female humans. Listen to him respond when there is good news on the phone and compare to a recording of your response, even when you have a headache. You sound like an orchestra while he is a harmonica. We place those ubiquitous sound tracks on videos for a reason: the sound, the voice highs and lows affect us all emotionally.
In many hetero-relationships, the woman takes over the worrying. He comforts her not to worry, and comforts himself by doing so. She is vulnerable to the goods and bads while he is too but can't feel it. So, she is the emotional vault of them both.
There are always those cookies and casseroles you make that he "can't".
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Bill
Main blog: Fear, Fun and Filoz
Main web site: Kirbyvariety
Wrinkled? Flabby? Tall? Flat? So what? That's not the point.
Can you see? Can you talk? Can you write? Can you take pictures of beauty, quote good stuff, ask intelligent questions? Can you comfort? Can you applaud, celebrate, honor, appreciate?
Don't forget it is your voice! Your emotional sensitivity and your ability to express emotion are what bring joy. Your responsiveness to others, your vulnerability and openness electrify, not your bust or waist measurements.
Pick your favorite manly man and have him talk to a little kid he likes. Listen carefully. I find that he does not, indeed cannot, hit that upper C and move his face with the same speed and invitation that comes naturally to female humans. Listen to him respond when there is good news on the phone and compare to a recording of your response, even when you have a headache. You sound like an orchestra while he is a harmonica. We place those ubiquitous sound tracks on videos for a reason: the sound, the voice highs and lows affect us all emotionally.
In many hetero-relationships, the woman takes over the worrying. He comforts her not to worry, and comforts himself by doing so. She is vulnerable to the goods and bads while he is too but can't feel it. So, she is the emotional vault of them both.
There are always those cookies and casseroles you make that he "can't".
--
Bill
Main blog: Fear, Fun and Filoz
Main web site: Kirbyvariety
