If you aren't happy most of the time, I suggest re-making your thought habits. It's not that hard to do. Wait until you feel strongly grumpy or down. If you are really depressed, you can't do this and in that situation, see a good counselor, psychologist or physician. But otherwise, describe to yourself what you see and feel at one of those low points.
Ok, you can't stand the government, the weather, the bills, whatever. Take a piece of scrap paper and write down a couple of sentences expressing the negativity that is weighing you down. At this point, you have at least two ways to go.
Path 1 is to change the subject. You are feeling like your partner isn't loving enough or you feel like a failure since you haven't saved more than the piddling amount you have in your account. Ok, search around for a new subject. Something good to listen to or watch on tv? Time to write a letter to a deceased parent or a far-off brother? You can look at what you have written and work at veering off on a complete different angle. You may be able to see that things are negative in one area but not at all negative in another area, one that you don't usually visit or pay attention to.
Path 2 is more of a direct attack. Path 1 can often show you that there are many sides to this world and to this life. Without deliberate focus, it may be difficult to take the exact opposite side of the negatives you have written. If you have been feeling that your partner isn't sufficiently loving or that you have done a poor job saving, write an statement that shows all the loving things your partner manages to do. Search widely. Don't forget quiet things like economizing, and befriending people. You have managed to save, especially when you think back on all the extra expenses you had this month. Path 2 is a strong consideration of the opposite side of the idea that has been bugging you. When you put some mental muscle into the job, it can be quite surprising how much there is on the other side of the question.
There is no law against taking both path 1 and path 2. In no time, you will have fun turning the grumps into grins and a feeling of a rich and complex life.
