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I had my first escape room experience yesterday. Our group consisted of seven relatives including me. I was the only member of the group who had not done an escape room before. You may know that one enters the room with a time limit to figure how to escape. There were many locks guarding clues and procedures on how to escape. We had about an hour to escape and we managed to get out in about 45 minutes.
I write "we" but it was all the other members of our family group. My impulse was to sit quietly and meditate but that would have been a defeat. I guess our greatgranddaughter who works there and my son-in-law who built the place felt our group did ok.
Many interesting facts and myth-busters are attached to the voyage of the Mayflower. For instance, not all of the passengers were Pilgrims (or "Separatists," as they referred to themselves). What was the new colony to do with a group of this size (30 or more) that didn't adhere to their strict rules and interpretations?
I have a maternal ancestry tie to one passenger: Francis Cooke.
My great-grandmother's surname was Starkweather. That line goes directly back to the Mayflower landing. If certain interpretations are to be believed, my 7X great-grandmother, Ann Woodbury Starkweather, was a "praying" (i.e. "converted") Wampanoag indian, a daughter of Metacomet, also known as King Phillip, namesake of the awful war between the colonists and natives. Such claims about Ann's lineage are dubious, but are often quoted and affirmed in various ancestry forums. My two DNA tests did not reveal any native traces whatsoever. But, if those lineage assertions are accurate, my ancestry would go back to those who were watching the passengers from the Mayflower disembark.
Fun to think about.
A splendid book about the Mayflower is Mayflower: Voyage, Community, War - by Nathaniel Philbrick (who, I note, is a featured historian commentator in Ken Burns' Revolution). Some of the shine often associated with stories of the first Thanksgiving is given over to a more realistic depiction, with the essential follow-up: the quick dissolution of once-favorable associations. Great read.
Ames
(From Yahoo)
Sailing to a new land
The Pilgrims set sail on September 16, 1620.
They traveled aboard the Mayflower, a small ship.
The journey took approximately 66 days.
They arrived at Cape Cod on November 9, 1620.
The harsh weather and rough seas extended their travel time.
In July 2023, I wrote that we very much liked "The In-between" by Vlahos and then tried "Nothing to Fear" by J. McFadden but gave it up. We thought it was too similar to what we had just read. Recently, we tried Nothing to Fear again. This time, Lynn really liked the whole book. She even got a paper copy in order to have a paper copy handy for returning to various pages and parts.
I am confident that all animals have a built-in tendency to avoid death and that includes humans. That tendency plus religious ideas of various kinds make a strong force to avoid and fear death. If I am living a good and satisfying life and if I don't want to leave my loved ones, I don't plan to overdo and try being too cozy or disrespectful of death. But I do think that is freeing to put dying in perspective. As I age, I want to avoid leaving Lynn alone but I realize that at advanced ages, death becomes increasingly likely.
My wife objects to this post.
A friend writes, "You men are apt to miss the toilet."
It can be difficult. It seems easy but sometimes things go wrong.
Years ago, when I first experienced my urine squirting out in two very widely separated streams, I could imagine standing at a urinal and urinating on a man using the urinal next to me. I thought that would lead to trouble. I went to see a doctor. He didn't seem surprised when I described my worry. He had me lay down on a high table and did something to me. It didn't take long. When he was finished, he said he was done. I got up and saw a metal tube lying beside me. I asked if he had put that pipe in me. He said he had and that I was more elastic than I knew.
Now that I am much older, it happens more often. Sometimes the streams are so divergent, it is difficult to get them both into the toilet. I realize I can sit down on the toilet and urinate more neatly but sometimes, standing up empties me more completely. Sorry!
We have had conversations with other older people and heard statements about our good fortune to have quite a few family members living close by.
I know that the job market, business dealings, scholarships and other opportunities can disburse loved ones all over. Heck, your daughter can meet a future husband on a plane trip and later announce she needs to move to New Zealand. So far, most of the rearrangements only involve places on this home planet but who knows how long that will last?
Lynn is his physical guardian and sees him often. I think we have both learned quite a bit from him and his condition. She and I both spend moments each day gazing at the ceiling, trying to recall a name. He is more advanced in forgetting. He sure makes clear how often human memories are important in living.
We are all animals and need movement and mental engagement as much as food and air. Without memory, it is difficult to hold conversations or enjoy participating in games. I think there is a need for games that entertain and maybe slightly challenge people with declining mental abilities.
I found out today that yesterday was World Toilet Day and I missed it completely! Don't worry. I'll get over it.
As is often the case, I do have a book to mention in connection with the world day that I completely missed. You might be interested in "The Big Necessity" by Rose George. As usual, you can get a copy in Kindle form. That way, it doesn't add much weight to your library shelves.
If a student is "at the head of the class", that usually means that student has answered more questions "correctly" than any of the other students. So, to be at the head, get scores that are higher numbers. But with a modern spreadsheet, it is easy and quick to sort the list some other way than high score down to low. If we want to think of errors made, the student with the lowest number of errors may be "best". If we calculate the mean or the median of the scores and calculate how many points each student is from that average, we can sort our spreadsheet by "distance from the average" quickly and easily.
I heard a college advisor say that the best single skill a college student could take away for college is the knowledge of how to use spreadsheet software. The most popular spreadsheet is "Excel" by Microsoft. You can get Excel along with other handy software for about $150 but you can get "Sheets" from Google free.
I know we can't "know" the future but "The Limits to Growth" was being published, in 1972. My friend is a wily historian who knows the complete past. The two of us were interested in what MIT and the Club of Rome had to say. One thing led to another and the two of us agreed to create a course "Futures" and we did. Note the plural, one of several nods to our ignorance and the difficulties of seeing into the future.
I have been asked a couple of times about what I learned from reading and from teaching that course. Basically, I found out that "futurists", soothsayers and fortune-tellers have a propensity to predict dark troubles. I guess it is only natural to want to warn of coming troubles and problems. I realize that some predictions are that if I have been a good enough boy, I will die and go to paradise, where everything is good and pleasant and there are no negatives. We'll see.
I have 5800 posts, beginning in 2008. Some of them are well written. Take a look:
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The first project we got in grad school was to write a computer program in the computer language Fortran. We had access to keypunch machines and needed to type each command into one card after another, carrying the cards to the computer building and handing the deck to an operator. Over night, our cards would be run through the computer and it would print output. The next day, we could pick up our result and see how our directions worked. A slow process that used a computer the university rented from the IBM company. So graduate school and computers went hand in hand for me.
Years later, Lynn showed me what she had learned in grad school: to make web pages. Eventually, I learned that Google offered tools to make something called a website and a blog. The blog was run like an article in a newspaper, something like a daily notice. The website was more permanent information, often related to lessons I taught in my classes. My website is here: https://sites.google.com/view/kirbyvariety1/welcome-to-my-home-page
And my blog is here: https://fearfunandfiloz.blogspot.com/
I am impressed when I discover another of my friends has a daily, helpful relation with an intelligent device that talks to them, such as Siri or Alexa. Usually, when I try to list products of a type, there turn out to be more of them than I knew about. "Siri" seems to be an Apple product while "Alexa" is an Amazon product. We can't forget about Google but that giant advanced company doesn't seem to have a cozy female smart speaker.
I don't rely on any smart speaker to assist me or control lighting, answer questions and such but maybe I should. Maybe I am missing out!!?
I have mentioned David R. Hamilton before. He has a PhD in organic chemistry and worked with a pharmaceutical company developing drugs. He noted that in experiments there were often some people in the placebo group that did as well as those receiving a drug. That observation led him to write "Why Woo-Woo Works" about the mind and its biological powers in the body. He has other books on the powers of the mind.
He has a new book, "The Five Side-Effects of Kindness". I have been re-reading "Why Woo-Woo Works" and there he emphasizes that a strong
tool to deal with stress is kindness. He notes that people often assume that relaxation is the best tool to destress but he says that kindness is more powerful.
t.ly/LUBLY Famous arias - link to search
The music department of UWSP and the Monteverdi Chorale cooperated on an evening of operatic arias. I knew I would recognize some but I don't know their names or the context. Today, I woke up with the Queen of the Night from Mozart's The Magic Flute singing in my head. I looked up the setting and the translation into English. The first words I read about the aria were that it made a fine earworm. You may know the term for a snatch of music that won't leave your head, that arrives without an invitation and keeps coming to mind without permission.
https://www.cnn.com/2025/11/06/world/gallery/photos-this-week-october-30-november-06
The page that comes up requests agreement to accept CNN cookies. I could not find a way around it and I don't want to accept it. There are other collections of photos on the web.
In groups with people around my age, we spend many minutes with one or more heads tilted back, looking upward with raised eyes. That is a typical posture of an older person, trying to remember. The elusive item is often a name. What was the name of that theorist? This morning, Lynn asked me about the little dogs that were often in photos of Queen Elizabeth. She said the elusive breed name began with the letter "C".
Sometimes, every one waits while the recaller tries to recall something he knows he used to know but the name will not come to mind. If others try to say the elusive name but fail, the names spoken may be a distraction that lessens the probability of recall. On the other hand, if the other members of the group just wait in polite silence, the awkward moment can cause the forgetter to be embarrassed, lessening the probability of satisfying recall.
A basic question about a library is not how tall it is or how much it weighs but how many volumes it has. When Lynn got the job of being the school librarian for a new school, the answer was none. Happily, another school librarian had already ordered a basic selection of books for that new elementary school.
I have more Kindle e-books than I have old form books printed on paper. One of the main advantages of Kindle books is that they are just about weight-free and they take up no space. They are usually lower priced than books with paper pages. So, I have more of them than I have ever had of paper books. I have many Kindle books that have been paid for and downloaded but never read. I am guessing that I should keep going over what I already have before getting more. When I include the idea of re-reading what I deeply enjoyed or have never read, I think it is possible that there are no more Kindle book purchases for me.
On many keyboards, there is a key that says "Num Lock". That's the key that makes numbers print instead of a collection of various marks. Some people dislike numbers. They often lead to mathematics and calculation and headaches. When I was in elementary school, I didn't like numbers since I sometimes got assignments of umpteen addition or multiplication problems to complete. Over the years, I changed, especially when spreadsheets enabled me to do all sorts of calculations quickly and accurately.
There is a morning news item that I almost always read called "Numlock News". It includes items from the news that have to do with numbers and related subjects. This morning, one of the Numlock News items was this:
Nilesh Christopher, The Los Angeles Times
When Google and other search software began showing others' searches that are similar to what I am searching, I found that the ideas and directions of others were a help to me, too. But with Snopes, a website that shows mistakes and unfounded rumors for what they are, I found after a while, that it was better for me not to read worries and inventions of others. Some of them tended to lodge doubts and fears in me that I didn't want and could do quite nicely without.
With or without my early message, you probably caught up with the end of daylight savings time. It also contained a CNN photos link like this:
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https://www.cnn.com/2025/10/30/world/gallery/photos-this-week-october-23-october-30
Don't forget: Daylight savings time is over.
https://www.cnn.com/2025/10/30/world/gallery/photos-this-week-october-23-october-30