Tuesday, June 18, 2019

Getting formed and forming

Many tv shows and movies use a version of the story line that depicts a guy who is attracted to a woman but shys away from fatherhood and parenting.  I have read that there is an increase in the number of people who want to be together but do not want children.

I think there is no job or occupation that compares to having a child.  I do believe that a person could have too many children. I have read that 2.11 children per woman are needed to keep a stable population.  I was interested in work that focused on people when I was still a high school student. It turned out that teaching was cheaper to get into than psychology.  I still think understanding, as much as possible, what people are thinking and feeling is far more enriching than delivering newspapers or the US mail.

There have been times when articles stated that young people were, in the main, quite focused on making money, lots of money.  I think that is still the case for many. Again, that seems like a deadend to me. If you have a job that you enjoy and care about, if you have a job that is an attraction for you, one that you actually want to do each day, it seems to me that you are on the right track.

But jobs, schmobs - if you and someone you are grateful to be liked by have a child, that is more real, more natural, more basic than bank accounts, multiple cars and fine clothes.  You may already be onto the fact that you and your body are one. I realize there is the possibility of various afterlives but we can all agree that for this life, habeus corpus: You must have the body.  No body, no earthly existence. Once you grasp that you and another body could make a body, just like you were made, it is stunning.

When you get passed over for promotion or your plans are wrecked, there is still the basic fact that your mother and your father made you.  How lovely if you, too, get to so some people making. As an educator of some years of experience, I remind you that it takes a village but it also takes two decades.  So, your parents launched you but your siblings, your playmates, your grandparents, your aunts and uncles, your teachers and coaches and many other people contributed to who you are and how you got to where you are.  In the same way, you contributed to others, including plenty of others you have forgotten about or never noticed.

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