If only I were richer, but I'm not.
If only I were better looking, but I'm not.
If only I were smarter, a faster thinker, had a better memory, were younger…
I like to start with toleration. An "if only" might be part of a smart idea. If I only had this or that, I might indeed be better off or I might be able to fix it that someone I care about would be. So, the idea that if only this were true might be the start of a dream or hope that could change into a plan that could change into a realization of something fun, cool, life-saving or life-enhancing - that idea might be right.
However, I like to color "if ony" red. "If only" is the start of a counterfactual statement: it isn't the case, it isn't reality, it isn't now. It isn't true. I have limited insight and limited understanding. Wishing for something different, hoping for a new possession is a common way to look down on the assets I actually have. Not being all that good at thinking, I may well be mistaken about the bliss just around the corner. A new acquisition may cost more than it pays off.
I like to use "if only" as a reminder to consider doing without and appreciating both what I have and what I am not already burdened with.
[Technically, using the words "if only" implies that the wished-for condition is ALL that is missing. Were that condition to be fulfilled, would my life really be complete? Doubtful, at best.]
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Bill
Main blog: Fear, Fun and Filoz
Main web site: Kirbyvariety
