In many ways, men are the model. The way things work at present, the leaders, the pioneers, the heroes, the models of success tend to be men. Often, the idea can be that to make it as a successful lawyer or real estate agent or executive, be a man or be like a man. In a way, that situation can be wasteful. Good talented women can stifle their talents while at the same time, train themselves to be inferior to what they might be.
Take crying. Everyone knows that big boys don't cry. I assume that everybody also knows, or should, that women live longer. I recommend facing one's feelings and yes, crying if a crying feeling comes. I also recommend waiting for yourself or someone else to get over their crying. It is post-crying, really well afterwards, that thinking about feelings, and the situation can begin and can be clearer and more helpful.
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I see articles about Egypt's first female ship captain. Evidently she was hundreds of miles away from the Suez Canal when the super large ship blocked the canal for a while. Some genius evidently guessed that she was piloting the Ever Given when it got stuck in the canal. She wasn't but swift communication and outlandish guesses can arrange months of rumors and counter rumors circulating about her, women in general and the relative skill sets of the sexes.
This time, like most times, is a time of change. Many of our built-in circuits and reflexes can be somewhat out-of-date in these times. New dangers, new possible responses, as well as good manners and civility, will go a long way to staying sympathetic to old ways, new ways, knee-jerk reflexes, outlandish hypotheses, and steady working to live well honestly and lovingly.
