Men's sex drive can be a pain. It is always intruding. A guy looks at a beautiful woman and his pulse quickens, his chest puffs up, and his brain goes into neutral. Sure, as he gets older, he becomes more accustomed to being rearranged for a short time. He learns to keep some of his reaction to himself and he probably stops blushing.
Somewhere long ago, I read that having a full bust line is like having male lures hung around your neck. I can see that some male reactions are complimentary and welcome. Maybe dealing with an alert and sophisticated man who can and does treat a woman as an intelligent, valuable conversationalist and source of ideas and comments. Just the other day, I learned about Paula Stone Williams, a transgender woman who was a man until her 60's. She has TED Talks and videos on YouTube about her experiences comparing both sides of the human gender divide.
I have many posts in this blog about the value of meditation and mindfulness and there is indeed piles of evidence that meditation can enrich one's life, no matter what circumstances a person faces. Within the last couple of years, I learned about psychology professor Willoughby Britton of Brown University, who has focused on the downside of meditation. For some people, trying to just be can elicit fears and haunting ideas and Professor Britton has specialized in studying the ill effects that some people experience, what they are, why they occur and what can be done about them.
https://www.brown.edu/research/labs/britton/research/varieties-contemplative-experience
Just today, I learned about Wendy McElroy, a Canadian writer who explains the positive side of pornography for women. I haven't read any of her work but I suspect that there may be something to be said for pornography for both sexes. Of course, what kinds, how it is created, how it is used - all such considerations matter. https://duckduckgo.com/?q=Wendy+McElroy&t=brave&ia=web
I read and hear steadily about the misuse of pornography and people, the degradation of women by pornography, and pornography addiction. I just looked up "Are any women addicted to pornography?" in Duckduckgo and found over 6 million results. Generally, it is a good idea to look carefully at the positives and negatives of anything and everything, if you or somebody has the time and energy.
