Anniversary of our deceased daughter's birth

Our younger daughter suffered mental illness for 20 years.  She died in 2008,  Here is a link to the web page that Lynn wrote about her and her life.

https://sites.google.com/view/kirbyvariety1/jill-kirby-1963-2008

Being part woman

We both had our DNA done, twice by the now closed-down National Geographic's Genographic Project and twice by 23andMe.  I also read "The 10,000 Year Explosion" about the human diaspora putting us all over the planet.  From where??  Shhh, don't tell anyone.  We all came from Africa!  We only got this pinkish-orange skin because at more extreme latitudes, that dark skin couldn't absorb sunlight components needed.

Another amazing fact: my mother, my grandparents - half of the batch were women!! It goes way back!

Go ahead.  Read "The Female Brain" by Louann Brizendine, MD.  You recognize some valuable traits, some of which you may have noticed in yourself even if you are heavy on testosterone.

Truthfully, some of the sentences in this post are questionable.  But go ahead and watch "The 6 Triple 8" and see what women can do.

I don't have a January birthday

We had two daughters but one died.  She had a long period of mental illness and strong hallucinations before her death.  It is a hard thing for parents and siblings to experience such a death.  Poor thinking led me to substitute myself for her as the person who was born on January 17.  The truth is my birthday is not January 17. 

Information by the truck, no, ship, load

My wife was told by her father that she couldn't train for boxing or science.  Girls can be secretaries, nurses or teachers.  She had other interests and resented those limits.  Please understand that was 157 years ago and things have changed.  I don't say it is easy for girls to be physicians or private detectives or shoemakers but I am confident it is getting a little easier.  

It is easy in the complex, imaginative world of today to discover that principles get modified or even over-thrown.  Many people didn't realize that chunks, mountains, continents of "information" are part of our world.  They always have been, of course, but we didn't recognize them for a long time.  In some cases, we still don't.  It is no use getting into too much detail when the details are endless and quite intertwined, often in what appears to be tight, discouraging knots.  

My wife, probably much like yours, provides meals for everybody in the house, clean clothes for everybody in the house, birthday gifts for the birthdays but not for the days that aren't.  She created web pages, taught librarianship, became a pottery member of a local artists co-op, kept a flow of ceramic creations into four outlets while serving her household.  You might think that shiploads of information would be too much for her but they aren't.  She is a WOMAN!  I realize that is an unfair advantage but it's not her fault.

Consequences again

Chains of influence and consequence

Saturday, November 30, 2013

http://fearfunandfiloz.blogspot.com/2013/11/chains-of-influence-and-consequence.html

I am interested in chains of consequence in our lives.  I  could have inherited notable musical skill if my genetics included genes of the right type from that famous composer, What'sHisName.  I would have genes from ol' What's if my greatgreatgreatgreat grandfather hadn't spilled the glass of red wine on that date when he went out with What'sHerName.  But he did, she was angry and humiliated the rest of the trip, their engagement was deleted and they went their separate ways.  They didn't plan to put the kibosh on my violin-playing but it was kiboshed even so.

There are so many small, sometimes unnoticed, events that influenced who got born, who survived, who managed to have children, who managed to survive,  I like to think about any couple: how did they meet?  What did they do that struck a good note?  Did their parents object to that possible partner's background, religion, occupation, personality?  Did the objections cause a flight or help to cement the relationship?

A friend told me that a woman ancestor of hers was engaged when she boarded a ship to the US but that when she disembarked, she was engaged to a different man.  Life is chancey!

CNN Photos of the week

https://www.cnn.com/2025/01/09/world/gallery/photos-this-week-january-2-january-9

What was that show?

Two days ago, I spent some effort trying to remember or search out what tv program I was remembering.  A scene kept coming to mind: a devious older woman with a gun in her hand sitting dejectedly in front of a younger man dead on the floor.  The woman's daughter enters the room and takes in the scene as the mother says in her heavy accent: "It was accident!"

After much thinking, trying to remember, I got it.  No wonder I was having trouble.  The scene was part of a show that we watched all episodes of - Jane, the Virgin.  The basic story of the show has little to do with a room in a swank hotel with a corpse.  Jane is the child of a single mother.   As a young woman, she has determined to avoid motherhood until she is married and has support.  The story is based on a successful tv series ifrom South America.

Jane goes for a gynecological exam.  The woman physician is under stress and enters the wrong room with semen at the ready and impregnates Jane, who is all prepared for an exam, not this!  She doesn't realize what has happened until a few months later.